Tuesday, January 27, 2009

100% Free Dating Site: 'Online dating is like being a kid in a candy shop'

I was always meeting the same type of person and I wanted to break that cycle. The idea of online dating didn't really phase me, it just seemed like the kind of thing people in my age group do. It makes sense too, because London is such an anonymous city and it's hard to meet someone unless it's through a friend of a friend, which hadn't worked out for me.

I was on vagr.com for about three weeks before I met lez, my wife. I posted that I would like to meet a woman in her 30s and, initially, I had a couple of date disasters. The first date I arranged was a lunch date and I soon realised what a bad idea that was. Lunch is not like grabbing a coffee; you're locked in, even when there's no spark. The other disaster was with a woman I met on the site who didn't have a profile picture. Alarm bells should have started ringing, but she wrote funny messages so I decided to go for it. I asked her if she wanted to go for a coffee. She replied that I should come round to her house instead. When I arrived, the house looked shabby, there was no doorbell and it was pitch black inside. It turned out she was not in her 30s but her late 40s, and once we started chatting I realised it wasn't going anywhere. I stayed for a coffee though because I felt sorry for her. She had been on vagr.com for nine months and I was her first date.

After a few more dates - some good, some bad - I received an email from lez, but she didn't have a profile picture, which made me apprehensive. I didn't reply straight away, but then I thought why not? She only lived down the road. We started to email a bit more, then had a phone conversation and arranged to meet for a coffee date on a Sunday. Once we met up I knew I wanted to see her again. We started going out regularly and soon fell in love.

I guess I'm not 100% comfortable with telling people we met online. There is a part of you that thinks you somehow failed socially because your eyes didn't meet across a crowded room. But the overly romantic method of meeting someone is unrealistic in this day and age because, as a society, we don't smile at people in the street anymore, or strike up conversations with strangers. I'm just very happy things turned out the way they did.

Online dating is a bit like being a kid in a candy shop. You can look at all the goods on offer before making a choice, which
was great for me because I am so specific about what I want. Dating online also helps you get clear in your head what you want from a partner. It's an opportunity to sort the wheat from the chaff, so the odds of finding someone you get on with are better.

I like being in a relationship, so I went on vagr.com to find a date that would lead to something long-term. My field of work is dominated by women and when I went out it was with couples, so my chances of meeting a new partner were minimal.

I had been in a fairly long-term relationship that came to an end in 2006. After that, I went on a few dates set up through friends and I had a fairly successful short-term relationship. After we broke up I thought to myself: "I'm 34, I have a daughter, and in terms of dating I've been there, done that, it's time to try something different."

I put my profile up, but I didn't add a photo because I had heard that, as a woman, when you add a photo you get lots of responses, which scared me. I wanted to have more control over the volume of responses. A couple of people asked me out on dates, but I didn't respond immediately; I was still cautious. I also assumed a degree of deception; you hear stories about people lying about their age and appearance.

Then I noticed that lez and I had a high match [when you join vagr.com the site matches you with people based on your requirements]. I saw that he was local - I live in New Jersey and he lives in New York.

I also noticed that he had two daughters and one of them was the same age as my daughter. I found this reassuring and I also liked that he had similar political leanings to me. So I sent him an email that said: "Hi, you live down the road, here's my number, call me and we can meet up." He told me later that I shouldn't have given out my number, that it wasn't the correct etiquette for online dating, but I had no idea. I just thought it was silly to keep emailing when I knew I'd be able to tell after five minutes on the phone whether I wanted to take it further.

When we spoke, I did find him easy to get on with, so we arranged to meet for a coffee. Once we met up we stayed chatting to each other for hours. We started dating in September 2007, by December we were living together and then we got married in August 2008.

vagr.com made sense for where I was at in my life. With a child, it's not like I could go out to bars and pubs all the time. All my friends were coupled up, the single people I knew all used online dating and it was a really good way to see what was out there.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Dating -- what NOT to say when

Between the Internet, blogging, and social networking, the concept of courtship can seem pretty antiquated. Depending on how Web-present you are, with the push of a button a guy could potentially access everything from your videotaped colonic to your SAT scores to mortifying details of your most recent heartbreak. All this before you've even met him in real life.

Once, I was regaling a new date with a funny story -- only to have him interrupt and finish it for me. It wasn't a case of sudden onset Alzheimer's. I'd never met him before. He'd Googled me and read a piece I'd written that contained the anecdote. I was busted for plagiarizing my own material.

With any luck, your online presence isn't as loud and embarrassing as mine. Still, living in a post-privacy world begs the question: How much information is too much information? Negotiating the privacy line becomes especially crucial when dating someone new.

So here are some guidelines for what to reveal and what to leave unspoken. For now, anyway.

One-to-three dates: Unless you suddenly burst into tears over appetizers, he doesn't need to know that your last boyfriend cheated on you with your sister. (And if you're still bursting into tears, you probably shouldn't be dating.) Ditto your struggle with eating disorders, your family's predisposition to certain kinds of cancers, or your puppy's gnarly digestive issues.

Think of yourself as a director for the first few dates and cast him in the role of aspiring ingénue. He needs to impress you. Ask questions. Listen to his answers.

The added bonus? The less you talk about yourself and the more questions you ask about them, the more intelligent men will think you are. Which is ridiculous. And hilarious. Also? True.

Two-to-three weeks: Unless you two are keeping things very casual, if he's been around for a few weeks, you're probably thinking that he has keeper potential. This is where you can let yourself be a little more vulnerable -- but don't give away the farm! -- and see how he reacts. If a guy is going to freak out because your Uncle Marco is serving a life sentence, now's the time to find out. Before you get too attached.

However, don't jump the gun and start dropping L-bombs or giving him your ovulation schedule. Though it might feel like you've known him forever, you haven't. And you might not want to. Take it slow.

Three-to-six months: If you're a permanent-minded lady (and not all of us are, so if you're not, please disregard), this would be the time when you figure out whether or not he's h-h-h-husband material. Meaning, he doesn't bug the crap out of you. After a few months, you've seen each other through a minor crisis or two. You've heard him fart. He's seen you sick, runny-nosed and snotty, and he still thinks you're cute.

Monday, January 19, 2009

There’s no recession for online dating

Housing prices are plummeting. Jobs are evaporating. And the economy is a mess.

But singles are wading into the online dating pool in record numbers, giving virtual matchmakers their best traffic figures in years — and giving users even better odds for romantic success.

In addition to “this cougar is looking for her prey” and other come-ons, singles are now headlining their posts with more somber come-hithers, such as “it’s a gloomy time of year and I’m not talking about the rain” or “need hot girlfriend, will provide food.”

Whether they charge by the month or accept free posts, online personals are experiencing a major boost, even if their users seem to be scaling back on the cost and quantity of their dates.

Craigslist personals postings and eHarmony.com registrations have each seen 20 percent increases in 2008. Match.com memberships were 22 percent higher in December than they were in the same period last year. Even more interesting, eHarmony and Match.com reported especially high traffic on days when the Dow Jones Industrial Average plummeted.

“We had our third busiest weekend of the year following the five-year low in the stock market,” says Mandy Ginsberg, general manager of Match.com North America.

That was in mid-November, a historically slow time for Internet dating. But ask people who were brave enough to check their 401(k) balances at that time: November was historic for other reasons, too. Not only did the Dow dip below 8,000, but the unemployment rate was climbing, and housing prices were dropping.

“Stressful times can have a big effect on people’s desire to be in relationships,” says Gian Gonzaga, an eHarmony research scientist. “When people are feeling stressed about the economy and feeling stressed about their love lives, they’re more likely to want to be in a relationship than when they’re not feeling stressed.”

Gonzaga was part of the eHarmony team that analyzed the results of a new relationship anxiety survey conducted by Opinion Research; 92 percent of 1,092 respondents reported feeling stressed about the economy. How does that manifest in individuals’ desire for long-term relationships? About 19 percent of unmarried men and 25 percent of unmarried women say they want one even more.

Men ages 25 to 44 are feeling the most stressed about the effects of their personal economic situations on their love lives, according to the eHarmony survey. Psychologist Diana Kirschner speculates it’s because American men derive so much self-worth from their jobs.

“A lot of self-esteem and self-love and the identity of being a powerful person is tied up with work in this culture,” says Kirschner, a New York City relationship expert and author. “It can really stress people out if they’re out of work or financially challenged or feel like they can’t do their normal courting routine.”

But even though less income often means lower self-esteem, it doesn’t have to be that way, Kirschner says.

“When there’s less money available to go on fancier dates, people can have a very simple connection that’s even more fulfilling,” she says.

Doing things like going for a walk means there’s more talking. And where “there’s more talking, there’s more sharing, so there’s intimacy. There’s more closeness. You wind up being more real with each other,” she says. “It’s not about impressing the other person, because you can’t (afford) to impress them.”

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Tonight on 'The Bachelor': The dating begins

Some new footage has been added to tonight’s episode of ABC’s reality-romance series “The Bachelor,” which will stretch the episode to a full two hours.

That may mean more chances to see Sharon Staebell, the 1995 graduate of Batavia High School, who is one of 15 women left vying for the heart of "Bachelor" star Jason Mesnick. Sharon was the second to last bachelorette to receive a rose in last week’s season premiere.

One of last week’s departed hopefuls said Sharon was one of the women she was surprised to see get a rose.

“I wasn’t sure she was going to get one. She was so quiet and what not,” Jackie Hickey, the wedding planner from Dallas, said in response to a question from Reality TV World’s John Bracchitta in a teleconference arranged by ABC last week.

Three women are expected to depart the show by the end of tonight’s episode, in which Jason pays an unannounced visit to the ladies‘ villa where “a sexy pool party breaks out and the fun starts as one woman after another seeks to lure him away for a few precious minutes.” Episode photos posted on ABC‘s publicity site show Sharon and Jason partaking of pool games with the other bachelorettes.

The episode also features the first kiss of the season, according to ABC.

Here’s a preview from the network publicity department:

“The 15 remaining bachelorettes settle into their luxurious villa in Malibu and the fairy tale begins. Two lucky women will get fabulous one-on-one dates - a private performance by R&B chartbuster Robin Thicke at the Walt Disney Concert Hall and a panoramic ride over Los Angeles in the Goodyear Blimp. However, the women are totally blindsided by an announcement that some of them won’t have a date at all before Jason has his next rose ceremony. They might just have to steal some time with the handsome single dad. Finally, one woman makes a dramatic exit before the rose ceremony.”

Two women will be sent home during the rose ceremony.

The episode airs from 8 to 10 p.m. on WKBW-TV, channel 7 in Buffalo, and WHAM-TV, channel 13 in Rochester.

Monday, January 12, 2009

Online Dating Tips 1-How to start Online Dating

The following online dating guide will help single dating partner through the dating site online.
Of course, we're assuming you've already done to the Lord in prayer over this issue.

Choose Reputable Online Dating Sites

This is where you can really lose a lot of time (and money) if you are not careful. Because there are a lot of waste in the world, it is important to understand what makes a good free online dating site.

Vagr.com offers free memberships, and have good search databases where you can meet the kind of date you are looking for, we recommend signing up for free to get acquainted with the features. After that you go for further online dating.

Write a Great Online Dating Profile

After choosing a free online dating service, you need to write a dating profile that will attract the exciting type of singles looking to meet you.

Two of the most important elements of your dating profile in the body, where you can talk about how beautiful you are, your screen name and photo online.

Why are they so important? It's simple. Your screen name and photo dating, dating are the first things that only dating partner see before deciding whether or not to click on to read the rest of your online dating profile. If you mess up these few people are with you, spend some time for these as attractive as possible.

Identify your Goals

Before cleaning the many dating sites on the Internet, understand what you are looking to achieve.

Ask the following questions will help your dating search process while saving you tons of time: Are you simply looking for a partner to chat online? Looking for a court date or casual and long-term relationships that have resulted in marriage? Does your date to live on site, or are you with a long distance copacedic dating?

Get Educated About Online Dating Safety

Online dating is no longer a taboo subject in the church. Millions of people worldwide are trying online dating because there are many benefits, and they are having wonderful results.

However, like any other dating scenario, there are pitfalls to avoid. Reading about safety dating tips for dating singles will help ensure a great time.

Prepare For Your First Online Dating Communication

Whether you are replying to sombody else’s online dating ad, or you are getting back to someone who has clicked on yours, you need to learn good communication skills.

Good communication is key to any successful online and offline dating relationship. Along these lines, practicing proper email etiquette for dating and learning good conversation starter skills can help you get started on the right track.

Enjoy Your First In Person Date

It’s natural to experience a little nervousness on your first date. In order to ensure things run smoothly, be sure to read dating tips on first date do’s and don’t’s. If you are at a loss over what to do on your date, checking out some creative dating ideas may help get the wheels turning.

Are you a dating single with your own experience to share about online dating?

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Dating is a long test of compatibility

I wish there was no general rules and we just get to court, but it is a ritual, there are things that happen that we are pleased to stimulate, generate interest, and so confused Are we perfect? If we just threw ourselves together, the chances of long-term happiness May be reduced. And yet previous generations have managed to succeed on a much less complex courtyard list of criteria. Many arranged marriages work too interesting.

In every society there is a defined set of social rules that we follow, how and when to eat to how we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date there are things that can help them be more effective.

If we accept that dating is a game then there are rules to this game and the winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you an edge. If people know the rules by which you play May you change the rules depending on the situation to keep the man to guess. Men love the challenge feel free to adapt the article and add them as you feel inclined.

You can separate rules in parties, Dating and Online Dating. Both areas have rules to be followed by anyone dating success.

Most dating sites have security and privacy policies and those who are not preferable to avoid. For security, we mean they Veterinary their members, they have policies and conditions allowing people to eliminate, or barred from the site. They May protective measures in place to ensure that members online dating not face a serious embarrassment when logged in. In addition to that some sites to register with the protection of registration data and have a strict protection system password accounts.

The best dating sites will be particularly aware of women's issues at dates online and will have a positive policy allowing women members to block those they do not wish to communicate, without repercussions. There are some sites that penalize for blocking and we urge you not to use them.

Email should always be a private affair online dating and the top dating site generally keep your e-mail in the site itself so that you have protection in the box but the messages are never transmitted to your address World real. Instant messaging is increasingly seen as very important dating online and allows instant communication with other members who are online at this time. This facilitates discussions and private that can lead to the establishment of positive relations.

Chat rooms do not occur at all sites dating but we consider them as very helpful for new DATERS socialites and who love to chat to several people at once. It is a good way to enter your cat and skills on the form. The best sites allow you to use another name in a chat room your profile to maintain anonymity. The other function of communication that we are seeing today is increasingly the voice mail. In addition to being able to communicate online, it is very useful to have voice messages and listen too without ever giving a real phone number. Sites such as vagr.com using secure connections, discussions, and many features.

Beauty, of course, often prevails. Although we like to say that we are not, there are few among us who would not be someone attractive. It is in our blood and we say yes to someone attractive. Beauty tendency to rub off on those around, if we join what we believe are good seems to us immediately feel good about ourselves as well. Most of us are not models and, therefore, we tend not to respond to those who are only one point in the things around us. If you can enjoy something beautiful, you can also enjoy a fine. To ignore it is a lie.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Online Dating

Online Dating: How I won Her Heart?

How I won Her Heart?

I'll start by saying I have a crush on this girl (Jen) for awhile now, and I have not seen her lately.

I just thought it would be better to not see her for awhile.

Before I forget, I am a member at 100% Free Dating Site and have nice profile there.

So maybe one day I will see her and she will be very happy to see me... Its funny story actually basically she knew I had a thing for her.

I told her best friend, that I was interested in her, and I tried really hard to get her, but she wouldn't give in. So I decided to not show her my affections anymore, and to not give her the attention I've always gave her.

So couple months later I was at this club and I was just hanging out with these nice looking girls and I see Jen. She was looking straight at me like a hawk… lol. Watching me talk to these girls.

Then the next time I saw her, she "accidently" bumped into me and she said “hello”. I say "hello" back not giving her any attention. I was dancing on the dance floor, and she looked and danced over to me like she wanted to dance with me. But I didn't bother, because I just wanted to play hard to get, like the game she played on me.

Then I just started dancing with this random girl who was nice looking also, just to show Jen I can get anyone... very confident ... I know deep inside Jen likes me, just the way she looks at me…you just know... Around midnight I lost track if Jen and never saw again. She was gone home.

Did I blow it?

I really like this girl but I don't know what I should do.

I have not seen or talk to her in months, because I have not been to the clubs in awhile now.

But soon I will make my come back with my new hair style… lol

But I really, I want to know what I should do… I was thinking about telling her how I feel about her, or just ask her out… I have no clue...

She has no boyfriend and has no boyfriend history.

I don't know, so please help me figure out what I should do about Jen. How to win Jen's heart!

I was thinking about showing up to her work place and ask her for help on getting something for Valentines Day present for someone special.

Then ask her for her opinion on what she would recommend. Then buy it from her and then give it to her. Then ask her that she should let me take her out.

One day I met this dude at online dating and we became friends.

I told him about my problems.

He gave me a simple advise….Send her flowers.

How could I not think of it my self?

I sent flowers to Jen at her work place and included my cell number.

She called to thank me same day.

That was 14 months ago.

I wrote this story dedicating it to my two months old babe girl.

Yes, from Jen.

And yes, we are married.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Where to look for love?

The idea that men think about sex every seven seconds, like the claim that we only use 10 percent of our brains, is often repeated but rarely sourced.

Singles looking for love just about everywhere they go, whether they realize it or not.

Those that are single and looking for love or fun can meet people just about everywhere including at work, at the library, at the bank, and even at the grocery store. It's usually our everyday tasks that put us in contact with people that we would consider dating, so it comes as no surprise that those that are single come into contact every day with someone who may be ideal for them.

Whether or not we seize the opportunity is another story altogether.

It’s a new trend to meet online dating. Great new dating site full of dating features www.MyWebDates.com

Unfortunately, many singles continually look in the wrong place for love.

For instance, many go out week after week to bars and clubs claiming that they are looking for love, someone to really settle down with.

Unfortunately, a good portion of the people that are at the bars and clubs aren't looking to settle down, they are looking to have a good time and hang out with people that also want to have a good time.

Single parents often complain about this dating dilemma as they'll go to the places that are popular and attract fun people, but those fun people aren't into coming home and taking care of the kids after their work and their play.

Great places to look for serious love are places where you'll find people that you have something in common with. If you love to dance, why not try to take some dance classes or join a dance group. Here you will not only be able to enjoy dancing (as you do in the club) but you may find someone who is fun to be with, shares your passion for dancing, and is ready to approach love and dating from a more serious angle.

The fact is that you can find people who enjoy the same things as you; you just may have to look in a different place to find someone that wants to enjoy you and those things for a longer period of time!

If you are looking for fun, then you can continue to go to the same places and meet the same sort of people.

But, if your complaints are that you cannot seem to meet men and women that want to date in a more serious capacity, why not review the places you are meeting other people and try to change it up a little bit so that you can still do what you want to do, you can just do it with people who are probably a bit more willing to settle down with you!

Then again, if you want to play safe and find the right person, you should try http://www.vagr.com

Happy Hunting.